New Releases by Deborah Tannen

Cum putem înțelege mai bine familiile? Cum funcționează relațiile? În această carte, Deborah Tannen explorează modul în care, prin dialog, ne creăm și ne modelăm relațiile, ne simțim aliați sau, dimpotrivă, suntem răniți și explică mecanismele care se află în spatele discuțiilor cotidiene. În centrul atenției sunt aduse diferite tipuri de conversații care au loc în familie — în special între membrii adulți. Bazandu-se pe analiza conversației, Tannen ne arată cât de important este să diferențiem mesajul cuvintelor rostite de metamesaje, acele semnificații emoționale puternice ce vin din istoria relațiilor noastre și din modul în care lucrurile sunt spuse. Ajutându-ne să înțelegem și să redefinim discuțiile din familie, Deborah Tannen ne oferă și instrumentele necesare pentru a ne îmbunătăți relațiile cu ceilalți membri ai familiei.

This warm, wise exploration of female friendship from the #1 New York Times bestselling author of You Just Don’t Understand will help women lean into these powerful relationships. A WASHINGTON POST NOTABLE BOOK • “Celebrates friendship in its frustrations and its rewards and, above all, its wonderful complexity.”—The Atlantic Best friend, old friend, good friend, bff, college roommate, neighbor, workplace confidante: Women’s friendships are a lifeline in times of trouble and a support system for daily life. A friend can be like a sister, daughter, mother, mentor, therapist, or confessor—or she can be all of these at once. She’s seen you at your worst and celebrates you at your best. Figuring out what it means to be friends is, in the end, no less than figuring out how we connect to other people. In this illuminating and validating new book, #1 New York Times bestselling author Deborah Tannen deconstructs the ways women friends talk and how those ways can bring friends closer or pull them apart. From casual chatting to intimate confiding, from talking about problems to telling what you had for dinner, Tannen uncovers the patterns of communication and miscommunication that affect friendships at different points in our lives. She shows how even the best of friends—with the best intentions—can say the wrong thing, and how words can repair the damage done by words. Through Tannen’s signature insight, humor, and ability to present pitch-perfect real-life dialogue, readers will see themselves and their friendships on every page. The book explains • the power of women friends who show empathy, give advice—or just listen • how women use talk to connect to friends—and to subtly compete • how “Fear of Being Left Out” and “Fear of Getting Kicked Out” can haunt women’s friendships • how social media is reshaping communication and relationships Drawing on interviews with eighty women of diverse backgrounds, ranging in age from nine to ninety-seven, You’re the Only One I Can Tell gets to the heart of women’s friendships—how they work or fail, how they help or hurt, and how we can make them better. “At a time when the messages we give and get have so many more ways to be misconstrued and potentially damaging, a book that takes apart our language becomes almost vital to our survival as friends.”—The Washington Post

عن التواصل كيف يستطيع أفضل القادة التواصل بوضوح وإقناع...؟! إذا لم تكن قد قرأت أي شيء عن كيفية التواصل المؤثر الواضح، عليك قراءة هذه المقالات العشر، لقد بحثنا عبر مئات المقالات في أرشيف مجلة هارفارد للأعمال واختبرنا أكثر المقالات المهمة لمساعدتك على التعبير عن أفكارك بوضوح وقوة مهما كان الوضع. في هذه المقالات، ستجد خبراء مثل: ديبوراu0003تانين وجاي كونغر ونك مورغان ليقدموا لكu0003النصيحة التي تحتاج إليها من أجل: • طرح أفكارك النيِّرة بنجاح. • التواصل مع جمهورك. • تثبيت المصداقية. • تحفيز الآخرين على تنفيذ رؤيتك. • التكيف مع أساليب اتخاذ القرار عند أصحابu0003المصلحة وتأطير الأهداف حول المصالح المشتركة. • بناء الإجماع وكسب التأييد. العبيكان 2017

The best leaders know how to communicate clearly and persuasively. How do you stack up?If you read nothing else on communicating effectively, read these 10 articles. We''ve combed through hundreds of articles in the Harvard Business Review archive and selected the most important ones to help you express your ideas with clarity and impact--no matter what the situation. Leading experts such as Deborah Tannen, Jay Conger, and Nick Morgan provide the insights and advice you need to: Pitch your brilliant idea--successfully Connect with your audience Establish credibility Inspire others to carry out your vision Adapt to stakeholders'' decision-making style Frame goals around common interests Build consensus and win support

At home, on the job, in a personal relationship, it''s often not what you say but how you say it that counts. Deborah Tannen revolutionized our thinking about relationships between women and men in her #1 bestseller You Just Don''t Understand. In That''s Not What I Meant!, the internationally renowned sociolinguist and expert on communication demonstrates how our conversational signals—voice level, pitch and intonation, rhythm and timing, even the simple turns of phrase we choose—are powerful factors in the success or failure of any relationship. Regional speech characteristics, ethnic and class backgrounds, age, and individual personality all contribute to diverse conversational styles that can lead to frustration and misplaced blame if ignored—but provide tools to improve relationships if they are understood. At once eye-opening, astute, and vastly entertaining, Tannen''s classic work on interpersonal communication will help you to hear what isn''t said and to recognize how your personal conversational style meshes or clashes with others. It will give you a new understanding of communication that will enable you to make the adjustments that can save a conversation . . . or a relationship.

Conversations between sisters reveal a deep and constant tug between two dynamics—an impulse toward closeness and an impulse toward competition. It takes just a word from your sister to start you laughing, or to summon up a past you both share. But it also takes just a word to send you into an emotional tailspin. For many women, a sister is both a devoted friend and a fierce rival. Wise and witty, You Were Always Mom’s Favorite! will leave you with a profound new understanding of the unique and precious sister bond, as well as provide practical advice that will open up communication, dispel tensions, and make a vital connection even stronger, deeper, and more resilient.

من الكتب العميقة التي ناقشت خلافات الأمهات والبنات، حول اللباس والشعر والوزن والبيت والأطفال والكلام، قصص وطرائف وملاحظات وتحليلات تعالج أنماط حياة الأسرة فيها جرأة وتحليل وصراحة تحتاجها الأم والبنت في أي موقف وعمر. "إن للمؤلفة أذنا موهوبة في سماع المعنى من وراء الكلمات، إنها هنا تساعدنا لنسمع حقيقة أقوالنا" جريدة: بالتيمور سن تتكلم الأمهات والبنات اللغة نفسها، لكنهن غالبا ما يسئن فهم بعضهن وهن يصارعن لإيجاد التوازن المناسب بين القرب والاستقلالية. لماذا تشتكي البنات دائما من نقد أمهاتهن، بينما تتألم الأمهات من استبعاد البنات لهن من حياتهن؟ لماذا تنتقد الأمهات والبنات بعضهن في المسائل الثلاث الكبار: الشعر والملابس والوزن، بينما تهفو كل منهن للاستحسان والتفهم من الأخرى ولا تجده؟ ولماذا تدقق الأم والبنت لترى نفسها في الأخرى؟ تجيب المؤلفة عن هذه الأسئلة وعن أسئلة كثيرة غيرها، من خلال تفسيرها لما يحدث للبنت أو الأم عند سماع كلمة بريئة منها قد لا تكون نقدا صريحا فتنفجر من نقدها في حين أنها لا تتأثر بها لو صدرت عن غيرها. تتفحص الكاتبة من خلال البصيرة النفاذة، والحوار المثالي والذكريات العميقة والمثيرة لأمها عن كل وجه من وجوه هذه الديناميكية المعقدة بين الأم وابنتها. يتناول الكتاب الجانب المظلم للعلاقة والذي يمكنه أن يحزن المرأة طوال حياتها إلى التكنولوجيا الجديدة كالإيميل والرسائل السريعة تلك التي غيرت وما زالت تغير طرق التواصل بين الأمهات والبنات. والأهم أنها تقدم للأمهات والبنات مفتاح تحسين العلاقة فيما بينهما عن طريق مساعدتهما في فهم بعضهن لبعض. " إن أثر وتقييم حكايات وتحليلات "تانن" يؤكد للقارئات بأنهن لسن وحيدات." جريدة: وال ستريت جورنال " ربما يستطيع هذا الكتاب فتح أعيننا جميعا." جريدة: شيكاغو سن تايمز اليوم العالمي للمرأة-العبيكان للنشر

Written in readable, vivid, non-technical prose, this book, first published in 2007, presents the highly respected scholarly research that forms the foundation for Deborah Tannen''s best-selling books about the role of language in human relationships. It provides a clear framework for understanding how ordinary conversation works to create meaning and establish relationships. A significant theoretical and methodological contribution to both linguistic and literary analysis, it uses transcripts of tape-recorded conversation to demonstrate that everyday conversation is made of features that are associated with literary discourse: repetition, dialogue, and details that create imagery. This second edition features a new introduction in which the author shows the relationship between this groundbreaking work and the research that has appeared since its original publication in 1989. In particular, she shows its relevance to the contemporary topic ''intertextuality'', and provides a useful summary of research on that topic.

New York Times bestselling author takes on what is potentially the most fraught and passionate connection of women''s lives: the mother-daughter relationship. Even though they speak the same language, they often misunderstand each other. With groundbreaking insights and deeply moving memories, Tannen untangles the knots daughters and mothers can get tied up in as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence.

Deborah Tannen''s #1 New York Times bestseller You Just Don’t Understand revolutionized communication between women and men. Now, in her most provocative and engaging book to date, she takes on what is potentially the most fraught and passionate connection of women’s lives: the mother-daughter relationship. It was Tannen who first showed us that men and women speak different languages. Mothers and daughters speak the same language–but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other’s power and underestimates her own. Why do daughters complain that their mothers always criticize, while mothers feel hurt that their daughters shut them out? Why do mothers and daughters critique each other on the Big Three–hair, clothes, and weight–while longing for approval and understanding? And why do they scrutinize each other for reflections of themselves? Deborah Tannen answers these and many other questions as she explains why a remark that would be harmless coming from anyone else can cause an explosion when it comes from your mother or your daughter. She examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies like e-mail and instant messaging that are transforming mother-daughter communication. Most important, she helps mothers and daughters understand each other, the key to improving their relationship. With groundbreaking insights, pitch-perfect dialogues, and deeply moving memories of her own mother, Tannen untangles the knots daughters and mothers can get tied up in. Readers will appreciate Tannen’s humor as they see themselves on every page and come away with real hope for breaking down barriers and opening new lines of communication. Eye-opening and heartfelt, You’re Wearing That? illuminates and enriches one of the most important relationships in our lives. “Tannen analyzes and decodes scores of conversations between moms and daughters. These exchanges are so real they can make you squirm as you relive the last fraught conversation you had with your own mother or daughter. But Tannen doesn''t just point out the pitfalls of the mother-daughter relationship, she also provides guidance for changing the conversations (or the way that we feel about the conversations) before they degenerate into what Tannen calls a mutually aggravating spiral, a "self-perpetuating cycle of escalating responses that become provocations." – The San Francisco Chronicle

This revised edition of Deborah Tannen''s first discourse analysis book, Conversational Style--first published in 1984, examining six speakers over a long Thanksgiving dinner--presents an approach to analyzing conversation that later became the hallmark and foundation of her extensive body of work in discourse analysis.

In this course, Georgetown University linguistics professor Deborah Tannen addresses the various aspects and implications of conversational style.

Why does talk in families so often go in circles, leaving us tied up in knots? In this illuminating book, Deborah Tannen, the linguist and and bestselling author of You Just Don''t Understand and many other books, reveals why talking to family members is so often painful and problematic even when we''re all adults. Searching for signs of acceptance and belonging, we find signs of disapproval and rejection. Why do the seeds of family love so often yield a harvest of criticism and judgment? In I Only Say This Because I Love You, Tannen shows how important it is, in family talk, to learn to separate word meanings, or messages, from heart meanings, or metamessages —unstated but powerful meanings that come from the history of our relationships and the way things are said. Presenting real conversations from people''s lives, Tannen reveals what is actually going on in family talk, including how family conversations must balance the longing for connection with the desire for control, as we struggle to be close without giving up our freedom. This eye-opening book explains why grown women so often feel criticized by their mothers; and why mothers feel they can''t open their mouths around their grown daughters; why growing up male or female, or as an older or younger sibling, results in different experiences of family that persist throughout our lives; and much, much more. By helping us to understand and redefine family talk, Tannen provides the tools to improve relationships with family members of every age.

Women and men live in different worlds...made of different words. Spending nearly four years on the New York Times bestseller list, including eight months at number one, You Just Don''t Understand is a true cultural and intellectual phenomenon. This is the book that brought gender differences in ways of speaking to the forefront of public awareness. With a rare combination of scientific insight and delightful, humorous writing, Tannen shows why women and men can walk away from the same conversation with completely different impressions of what was said. Studded with lively and entertaining examples of real conversations, this book gives you the tools to understand what went wrong -- and to find a common language in which to strengthen relationships at work and at home. A classic in the field of interpersonal relations, this book will change forever the way you approach conversations.

Lo importante no es lo que usted dice, sino cómo lo dice. A partir de esta regla de oro, el presente libro asegura que el éxito o el fracaso de una relación -ya sea en el hogar, en el trabajo o en una cita- dependen de nuestro estilo de conversación, del volumen que adopte nuestra voz, del tono, el ritmo y el sentido de nuestras palabras. Tanto en el público como en privado, la consideración de esas maneras de comunicarse, su armonización o enfrentamiento con las de nuestros semejantes, nos conducirá sin duda al aprendizaje de valiosísimos mecanismos para afrontar con éxito estrategias de trabajo, transacciones comerciales y reuniones de todo tipo. En este sentido, usted podrá aprender, entre otras cosas, a: - Comunicarse de manera más efectiva con sus hijos o con su cónyuge, con sus empleados o con su jefe, con sus amigos de siempre o sus nuevas relaciones. - Saber adaptar su ritmo de conversación o los términos que emplea con el fin de alcanzar sus objetivos. - Enfrentarse a los intentos de manipulación por parte de sus interlocutores.

Estudiosa internacionalmente reconocida y muy respetada en el terreno de la linguistica. Deborah Tannen debe gran parte de su prestigio a su trabajo sobre la manera en que el lenguaje refleja y afecta a las relaciones entre hombres y mujeres. Ahora, en este libro, reune cinco de sus mas interesantes ensayos sobre lenguaje y genero, y elabora un marco teorico y empirico que cubre un amplio espectro de cuestiones: analiza todo tipo de estrategias conversacionales; se centra en los elementos que pueden influir en el equilibrio de poder; y, por si fuera poco, proporciona un esplendido analisis de cuatro grupos de varones y de mujeres en plena conversacion con sus mejores amigosb& De este modo, no solo se trata de un volumen fascinante para los interesados en una comprension mas profunda y detallada de la obra de Tannen, sino tambien para cualquiera que aliente una cierta curiosidad acerca del papel decisivo, aunque inadvertido, que desempenan el lenguaje y el genero en nuestra vida cotidiana.

Your project went off without a hitch--but somebody else got the credit...You averted a crisis brilliantly--but no one noticed...You came to the meeting with a sensational idea--but it was ignored until someone else said the same thing... HOW CAN YOU GET CREDIT & GET AHEAD? In her extraordinary international bestseller, You Just Don''t Understand, Deborah Tannen transformed forever the way we look at intimate relationships between women and men. Now she turns her keen ear and observant eye toward the workplace--where the ways in which men and women communicate can determine who gets heard, who gets ahead, and what gets done. An instant classic, Talking From 9 to 5 brilliantly explains women''s and men''s conversational rituals--and the language barriers we unintentionally erect in the business world. It is a unique and invaluable guide to recognizing the verbal power games and miscommunications that cause good work to be underappreciated or go unnoticed--an essential tool for promoting more positive and productive professional relationships among men and women.

The interactional context, the participants'' individual styles, and the interaction of their styles, Tannen shows, all influence the balance of power.

Selección de estudios sobre el análisis lingüístico de la conversación, los diferentes estilos de conversar y los efectos de la interacción entre los participantes; También se hace una comparación entre el discurso hablado y el escrito, es decir entre lo oral y lo literario.

Estudio sobre la estructura del discurso y el crecimiento de la comunicación a través de los modos hablados y escritos.