Most Popular Books by Joseph J. Luciani

The simple, untold truth about anxiety and depression is that they are habits of insecurity—and, like all habits, they can be broken. In this new edition of the highly successful Self-Coaching, Dr. Joseph Luciani shows you how to change your way of thinking and develop a healthy, adaptive way of living through his proven Self-Talk strategy for coaching yourself back to health.

An easy program for freeing yourself from your mental and emotional traps-and leading the life you want and deserve "This empowering book will teach, inspire, and coach you to break the habits of insecurity that prevent you from realizing your spontaneous inner potential for genuine happiness." -John Gray, Ph.D., author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus "There is nothing more empowering than accepting responsibility. Taking responsibility is not about assuming fault; it is about re-taking the helm and control of your journey in life. This book will help you navigate through the difficulties of personality and behavioral change to more emotional peace." -Dr. Laura Schlessinger, author of The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands Nobody is born insecure, angry, bored, or depressed. The fact is, happiness is our natural state and, as psychologist Dr. Joseph J. Luciani explains in this warm, witty, and empowering guide, chronic unhappiness is just a bad habit-a habit that can be broken. It's much easier than you think! Based on Dr. Luciani's twenty-five years of experience helping patients unlearn reflexive, destructive thinking, The Power of Self-Coaching arms you with all the tools you need to free yourself from your mental and emotional traps. As you work through the many self-quizzes, training and coaching exercises, and Power Drills, you'll see yourself anew and feel yourself growing lighter, more spontaneous, and ready to take charge of your life. A proven five-step program for reconnecting with the innate capacity for happiness, The Power of Self-Coaching gives you what you need to: * Identify learned patterns of thought and feelings that are making you unhappy * Use Dr. Luciani's celebrated Self-Talk techniques to develop new, healthy ways of thinking and feeling * Eliminate boredom, hopelessness, chronic fatigue, and emotional numbness from your life * Tap your full creative, intellectual, and emotional potential and live the rich, rewarding life you want and deserve

AARP Digital Editions offer you practical tips, proven solutions, and expert guidance. The simple, untold truth about anxiety and depression is that they are habits of insecurity—and, like all habits, they can be broken. In this new edition of the highly successful Self-Coaching, Dr. Joseph Luciani shows you how to change your way of thinking and develop a healthy, adaptive way of living through his proven Self-Talk strategy for coaching yourself back to health. Drawing on cognitive behavioral therapy techniques that are proven effective, this category bestseller provides simple exercises to help people overcome the negative thought patterns that lead to anxiety and depression. The fact is, these disorders can be conquered. As Self-Coaching demonstrates, anxiety and depression aren't mysterious or dark maladies; they're simply destructive habits of insecurity. Dr. Luciani shows how habits are learned and how habits can be broken. The new edition has been revised to offer more detailed guidance on using the author's unique Self-Talk strategy with more action steps, more practical solutions, and new methods for dealing with anxiety and depression.

There's no doubt about it: every conflict in every relationship involves two people with two different perceptions, and every solution requires two partners to arrive at a single shared perception. You can't repair a damaged relationship by yourself, and you can't change your partner into someone else. Does that mean the situation is hopeless? Absolutely not! In Reconnecting, Dr. Joseph Luciani, the celebrated author of the renowned Self-Coaching series, introduces a proven, practical method you can follow to encourage your less-than-cooperative partner to join you in a meaningful healing process, even if you have to take the first steps on your own. Dr. Luciani begins by helping you evaluate your own level of insecurity and, using his Self-Talk technique, do something to improve it. He shows you how to use Self-Talk to become a catalyst for change in your relationship by eliminating your contribution to the problem. You'll identify your own personality patterns and use Self-Talk to let go of personal baggage, stop listening to what hurts you, and see the problem as a whole. Next, you'll learn how to apply Catalytic Self-Coaching to your relationship. You'll find out what it means to create a relationship vacuum, and you'll start working with Self + Self = Us Portraits. You'll also discover how to risk trusting each other and to begin coaching each other away from destructive habits and toward a more truthful and loving relationship. This eye-opening and life-changing guide offers constant support on your journey toward a more loving and rewarding relationship. You'll find plenty of prescriptive advice to help you make sense of your own personality patterns and cope with the anxiety and depression that often accompany difficult relationships. Dr. Luciani's success stories of patients who have changed their lives will help you realize that you're not alone and there is hope. Complete with a valuable discussion of the essential principles of successful relationships and how to put them into action every day, Reconnecting is the resource you need to break free of destructive habits and create a new, more secure relationship that brings you the companionship, commitment, trust, and true love you need.

你對自己說的話，決定你怎樣過這一天 心理師教你這樣說，會讓每天感覺好很多 讓90％的焦慮、糾結、不安全感都消失的自我對話練習 ★連續四年穩居亞馬遜心理暢銷書榜 ★全球長銷20年心靈成長經典 你是否── ‧ 過度擔憂未來或根本沒發生的事 ‧ 只想控制更多事情，要不然就放棄一切躲起來 ‧ 當事情脫離預期，就開始自我懷疑、悲觀、恐懼… ‧ 逼自己去追求無法達到的完美 ‧ 無法信任自己有能力做出好的選擇 臨床心理師盧恰尼博士同樣曾經受困於情緒內耗，為了改變自己不快樂的生活，盧恰尼博士選擇與自己對話，找回內心的平衡。 而你，想活出你想要的人生，喜歡真正的自己嗎？ 現在就練習與自己對話，讓不安全感都消失。 與自己對話的五步驟練習── 當壓力、負面情緒、不安全感習慣又來糾纏你的時候，當你又想牢牢控制一切的時候，記得啟動五步驟與自己對話： 分析思維→明辨真假→練習阻擋→學會放下→激勵自己 就會知道你也有改變與選擇的權利，而且一切比你想的更容易！ ● 分析思維 分析你有哪些控制傾向（例如常說「我必須」、「萬一」），並定期重新檢測。 練習→將這些控制習慣具象化呈現，列表、繪製圖示。 ●明辨真假 分清楚什麼事已經真實發生，什麼事只是腦海中的假想或感覺。 練習→寫下自己的感受，回答：「我能做什麼來改變這個感受？」 ●練習阻擋 堅信你有能力拒絕焦慮、恐慌或情緒化習慣。 練習→經常練習「說不」，從鬧鐘一響就起床、不吃宵夜、不拖延開始，學會不去縱容自己。 ●學會放下 不安全感習慣是因為想太多，若要破除習慣，就要學會放下不去思考。 練習→三種放下方式：轉換思維頻道、治療性的不顧一切、冥想。 ●激勵自己 用確切的態度＋充足的能量，將自我對話貫徹到底。 練習→想像你是自己的教練，用教練思維訓練自己。 為了解決內耗問題，更為了讓自己幸福，盧恰尼博士投入臨床心理工作，用自我對話的練習給自己改變的力量，教會我們穩定情緒、信任生活、建立好關係，療癒我們疲憊的心。 ─本書特色─ 1.心理學博士臨床精煉25年的自我對話方法： 盧恰尼博士以親身經歷和多年臨床的深刻體會，形成一套自我對話方法，只要簡單五個步驟，就能開解內心難題，打造自己的理想生活。 2.他們的煩惱像是發生在我們周遭，甚至是我們自己的故事： 為滿足父母期待做不想做的工作、年過四十依然單身、為迎合朋友隱藏真實的自己、邁入中年卻失業……22個案例故事，他們或懷疑人生或憂心未來或恐慌無助，但最終運用自我對話療癒自己，也啟發我們找到屬於自己的方向和前進的力量。 3.每個人都能做到的自行檢測和強化練習： 自行檢測幫助你更了解自己的現況，知道現在該如何因應。加上實用且作法簡單的自我對話強化訓練，隨時都能直面內心，做出選擇和改變。 ─推薦人─ 吳若權｜作家 / 廣播主持 /企管顧問 劉仲彬｜善言心理治療所所長 / 臨床心理師 鄧善庭｜諮商心理師 盧美妏｜人生設計心理諮商所 共同創辦人 / 諮商心理師 蘇予昕｜蘇予昕心理諮商所所長、暢銷作家 蘇益賢｜臨床心理師 ─各界好評─ 許多讀者可能已經做好準備，想要為自己的人生做出改變……在改變路上，本書為我們應該跳脫的某些過往習慣、值得覺察的某些內耗狀態進行了論述，並提供相關引導，讓讀者不至於努力錯了方向。──蘇益賢，臨床心理師 本書教我們自我對話的五步驟：分析弱點、釐清真實、關閉雜音、放下、激勵，若能放在生活中持續練習，我相信可以為讀者帶來新的生活樣貌。──鄧善庭，諮商心理師 這本充滿力量的書將教導、啟發並引導你打破不安全感習慣，讓你釋放內在自發的幸福潛能。──約翰．葛瑞（John Gray, Ph.D），《男人來自火星，女人來自金星》作者 沒有什麼比接受責任更能賦予你能量。承擔責任不是承認錯誤，而是重新掌控你人生旅程的航向。本書將引導你越過個性與行為改變的難關，獲得更多內心的平靜。──蘿拉．史列辛格（Dr. Laura Schlessinger），《男人怎麼愛？如何適當照顧、激勵妳的丈夫》作者

當情緒失控時，你能這樣接住自己── 用自我對話整理心情亂流，不再內傷糾結。 ★《不再內耗的自我對話》暢銷系列書 ★ 長銷全球的心理自癒經典 童年創傷讓盧恰尼內心飽受折磨、精疲力竭。於是他主修心理學，從多年學術研究和臨床分析，發展出一套簡單卻極為實用的自我對話練習，不但幫助了自己，也療癒了全球飽受情緒困擾的人們。 在911事件之後，盧恰尼受邀上遍電視與廣播節目，協助大眾走出創傷。他的自我對話療癒方法，成為許多人日常修復身心的工具。本書完整公開這套方法，每個人都能學會與自己好好說話，陪自己走過內心的混亂和失落── ● 無法停止的思緒，總是讓你耗盡生活力氣？ 腦海中無數個「萬一」，只是不安全感的投射，學著只回應真實發生的事，你將慢慢找回生命活力。 ● 遇到壓力的時候，只想縮進保護殼裡？ 該承擔的責任，也許能暫時放下，但終究無法逃避。你可以下定決心，願意為了讓自己更好而走出來。 ● 只是想保護自己，卻反而刺傷別人？ 練習傾聽自己的內心，當你明白只是內在小孩的反應，就能卸下尖刺，不再被憤怒與敵意牽著走。 ● 盡心迎合每個人，但都不是真實的自己？ 或許你只是不想被討厭。練習說「不」，做真實的自己不會變成壞人，你依然值得被珍惜。 ● 明明已經很努力，還是永遠覺得不夠好？ 這是你的完美主義在作祟。分清楚什麼是喜歡、什麼是壓力，會發現生活原來可以更自在、更快樂。 如何開始自我對話── 學會用自我對話來清理負面情緒，就能給自己更多的信任和安心，只需要簡單三步驟：分辨→停止→放下 首先，要能區分事實與假想，若不是真實發生的事，就沒必要多想。當你明白這些念頭都是假的，接下來就能學會停止有害的反射想法，鍛鍊自己轉換想法。最後，懂得放下，好好回應當下的生活。 懂得自我對話之後，也要持續到底── 盧恰尼在本書中教你寫下專屬的訓練日誌，讓練習有跡可循，看得見的改變，會讓你樂於持續下去。當你能夠熟練地運用自我對話來對抗那些不安的聲音，堅持進行到最後，讓你一天比一天進步。你是自己最可靠的教練，記得時時為自己加油打氣！ ─本書特色─ 1.心理學博士臨床實證有效的自我對話系列暢銷書 盧恰尼博士長銷全球的自我對話系列書，告訴我們情緒問題是可以練習改變的心理習慣！盧恰尼博士以親身經歷和多年臨床的深刻體會，打造實用有效的自我對話方法，不需要艱澀的學理分析，只要用一種簡單而直接的方式，就能靠自己擺脫不安的心。 2.分析不同人格特質，量身打造屬於你的自我對話練習 你是適時顧慮或純粹想太多瞎操心？你像刺蝟一樣讓人總是無法靠近，該如何學會放下不滿？抑或你只想躲在殼裡，以為這樣就很安全？無論你擅長披上外衣掩飾真心，還是你每件事都絕對要做到完美……盧恰尼博士仔細分析各類型心理傾向，幫你更理解自己，選擇最適合你的方式，與自己對話。 3.提供自我檢測，幫助你更理解自己 本書提供憂鬱、不安全感、人格類型等重要的自我檢測，讓你充分掌握自己的現況，給你改變的方向，並知道現在該如何善用自我對話來因應。 4.獨家設計訓練日誌，讓自我對話練習可記錄、可追蹤、可持續 每一章末提供實用且作法簡單的自我對話訓練，你可以每日練習、每月評估、需要時使用，陪伴你、幫助你清楚看見你的改變與進展。 ─誠摰推薦─ 吳姵瑩（愛心理創辦人 / 諮商心理師） 吳若權（作家 / 廣播主持 / 企管顧問） 宋怡慧（丹鳳高中圖書館主任 / 作家） 劉仲彬（善言心理治療所所長 / 臨床心理師） 鄧善庭（諮商心理師） 盧美妏（人生設計心理諮商所 共同創辦人 / 諮商心理師） 蘇予昕（蘇予昕心理諮商所所長） 蘇益賢（臨床心理師） 「透過這本書，可以協助你更全面與系統化的了解自己，學會自我對話與療癒。」──吳姵瑩（愛心理創辦人、諮商心理師） 「像一盞文字的燦燈，讓你我徘徊在忙碌與高壓時，尋找到重新對話的途徑。」──宋怡慧（丹鳳高中圖書館主任、作家）

What if everything you thought you knew about anxiety and depression was wrong? What if, instead of mental illnesses or emotional disorders, anxiety and depression are simply habits? You already know about habits--habits are learned and habits can be broken or "unlearned." This idea may surprise you, but the truth about anxiety and depression isn't complicated. This book will teach you to unlearn your habits of anxiety and depression--and then coach yourself to do it Dr. Joseph Luciani presents his proven self-coaching approach that has worked wonders for his patients as well as thousands of readers worldwide. Using a powerful, four-step mind-talk strategy, Unlearning Anxiety & Depression combines the science of neuroplasticity with cognitive behavioral psychology and motivational coaching so you can self-coach back to health. Self-Coaching is all about insight and action. You'll learn to: stop worrying, anticipating, and controlling life; start living more spontaneously from a place of self-trust; separate facts from insecurity-driven emotional fictions; and develop critical awareness of your inner neurotic dialogue.

A proven five-step program for reconnecting with the innate capacity for happiness, The Power of Self-Coaching gives you what you need to: * Identify learned patterns of thought and feelings that are making you unhappy * Use Dr. Luciani's celebrated Self-Talk techniques to develop new, healthy ways of thinking and feeling * Eliminate boredom, hopelessness, chronic fatigue, and emotional numbness from your life * Tap your full creative, intellectual, and emotional potential and live the rich, rewarding life you want and deserve

本书内容主要包括:什么是自我训练;自我训练可以解决的问题;自我训练:计划和实施;自我训练:对特殊人格对症下药;生活中的自我训练等。