Most Popular Books by Jane Nelsen

THE KEY TO DISCIPLINE IS NOT PUNISHMENT, BUT MUTUAL RESPECT All parents try to do their best--but the best of intentions don''t always produce the best results. Dr. Jane Nelsen, an experienced psychologist, educator, and mother, believes that children misbehave when they feel thwarted in their need to belong and in their need for love and attention. An authoritative approach, using phrases like " Because I said so!" , will only lead to rebellious behavior. Instead, parents need basic principles that bring them and their children closer. They need Positive Discipline. Dr. Nelsen explains that parents who use kindness and firmness to teach life skills will encourage self-respect, self-discipline, cooperation, good behavior, and problem-solving skills in their children. In Positive Discipline, revised and updated for the ''90s, she shows all of us, parents and teachers alike, exactly how her practical program works--answering, step-by-step, such important questions as: *What works better than punishment to teach children positive, good behavior? *What mistakes do most parents make " in the name of love" ? *How can parents turn their mistakes into assets? *How can praise be dangerous? *What are the dangers of trying to be " Super Mom" ? *How can teachers avoid discipline problems in the classroom? " It is positive! It works! It saves your sanity! And it is easy to share with others." --Julie Pope, Parent Sacramento, CA " As a parent and psychotherapist, I have found enormous value and practical wisdom in Positive Discipline. It conveys a win/win atmosphere for parents and children. The techniques are so easy tolearn and fun to use...Anyone following these concepts will see almost instant results and big smiles on the faces of their children." --Katherine Dusay, Psychotherapist San Francisco, CA

Teaching Parenting the Positive Discipline Way (developed by Lynn Lott and Jane Nelsen) is a research-based parent education program that provides a step-by-step approach to starting and leading experientially based parenting groups.

A thoughtfully revised and expanded edition of Jane Nelsen''s revolutionary guide on how to raise capable, confident children without rewards or punishment—now updated with research-backed information on how to approach parenting in the era of social media For forty-five years, Positive Discipline has been the gold standard reference for adults working with children. Now Jane Nelsen, distinguished psychologist, educator, mother, grandmother, and great grandmother, has revised and expanded her classic guide with tools for the modern, digital age. Nelsen explains how parents and teachers can be both firm and kind at the same time, so that any child—from a four-year-old toddler to a rebellious teenager—can learn solution-oriented cooperation and self-discipline with no loss of dignity. The key to positive discipline is not punishment but respectfully focusing on solutions that teach valuable social and life skills; and encourage mistakes as opportunities to learn—for parents and children. This updated guide covers: A new look at “misbehavior” The significance of birth order How to apply positive discipline in a screen-addicted world How your personality affects theirs Practical kind-and-firm tools to replace rewards and punishment. With warmth, understanding, and expertise, Nelsen helps parents and teachers unlock the positive solutions and strategies to help kids thrive.

With the high rate of divorce, children are more likely than ever before to be raised by a single parent. Now, from the author of Positive Discipline, here is the definitive book for single parents to raising responsible, resp ectful children.

Positive Discipline in the School and Classroom Manual provides materials to empower schools to develop and implement a comprehensive school process that teaches mutual respect, fosters academic excellence and teaches students (in a structured, experiential manner) the basic skills they need to develop a strong sense of belonging and significance.Positive Discipline in the School and Classroom Manual is organized to serve three primary purposes:1. To provide the resources to teach the social-emotional skills necessary as the foundation for classmeetings and the tools to lead your classroom into the process of Positive Discipline class meetings.2. To provide the materials used in the Positive Discipline in the Classroom professional development training workshops.3. To provide resources and ideas to inspire co-workers in your own school.

Over 2 Million Positive Discipline Books Sold! A Positive Approach To Helping Children With Special Needs Realize Their Potential Every child deserves to lead a happy and fulfilling life. For parents and teachers of children with special needs, helping their child to not only negotiate daily challenges, but to live fulfilling, meaningful lives, can be the most difficult challenge they will face. Over the years, millions of parents and teachers have come to trust Jane Nelsen’s classic Positive Discipline series for its consistent, commonsense approach to childrearing. Now, the bestselling series addresses the specific challenges that parents and teachers of children with special needs face, and offers them straightforward advice for supporting them in positive ways. In these pages are practical solutions to challenges such as: Learning to look beyond diagnostic labels ● Believing in each child''s potential regardless of his/her stage of development ● Helping children integrate socially and interact with their peers ● Coping with the frustration that inevitably occurs when a child is being difficult ● Strengthening a child’s sense of belonging and significance ● And Many More! Use this book to answer such questions as: • How do you accommodate a disability, while still teaching a child to try their best? • How do you help a child cope with anger they may have trouble expressing, especially when that anger may on some level be justified? • How do you teach a child who may struggle with seemingly straight forward tasks to contribute to the world around them in a way that will be meaningful to them? “If you are raising or teaching a child with special needs, this book is a must-read. As the mother of a child with autism, my hopes and dreams for my son were no different than those of other parents. I wanted a parenting approach that helped my child grow up to be self confident, happy, and prepared for success in relationships, work, and life. I also needed practical, effective methods for addressing the significant, challenging behaviors I faced on a daily basis. Finally, in this amazing book, I found both….Thank you, thank you, thank you to the authors of this groundbreaking book.” - Rachel Fink Parks, MS, PCC

A Positive Approach To Raising Happy, Healthy and Mature Teenagers Adolescence can be a time of great stress and turmoil—not only for kids going through it, but for their parents as well. It’s normal for teens to explore a new sense of freedom and to redefine the ways in which they relate to their parents, and that process can sometimes leave parents feeling powerless, alienated, or excluded from their children’s lives. These effects can be magnified even further in this modern age of social networks, cell phones, and constant digital distraction. This newly revised and updated edition of Positive Discipline for Teenagers shows parents how to build stronger bridges of communication with their children, break the destructive cycles of guilt and blame that occur in parent-teen power struggles, and work toward greater mutual respect with their adolescents. At the core of the Positive Discipline approach is the understanding that teens still need their parents, just in different ways—and by better understanding who their teens really are, parents can learn to encourage both their teens and themselves, and instill good judgment without being judgmental. The methods in this book work to build vital social and life skills through encouragement and empowerment—not punishment. Truly effective parenting is about connection before correction. Over the years, millions of parents have come to trust Jane Nelsen’s classic Positive Discipline series for its consistent, commonsense approach to raising happy, responsible kids. This new edition is filled with proven, effective methods for coping with such parenting challenges as: -Fostering truly honest discussions with your teen -Helping your teen handle the online world -Turning mistakes into opportunities -Keeping your sanity while raising your teen—and making sure your own teenage issues aren’t weighing you down -Teaching your teen how to pursue the goal that make them happy…and a few that make you happy too (like chores) -Making sure you’re on your teen’s side, and that they know that -Avoiding the pitfalls of excessive control and excessive permissiveness

As a parent, you face one of the most challenging—and rewarding—roles of your life. No matter how much you love your child, there will still be moments filled with anger, frustration, and, at times, desperation. What do you do? Over the years, millions of parents just like you have come to trust the Positive Discipline series for its consistent, commonsense approach to child rearing. In this completely updated edition of Positive Discipline A–Z, you will learn how to use methods to raise a child who is responsible, respectful, and resourceful. You’ll find practical solutions to such parenting challenges as: - Sibling Rivalry - Bedtime Hassles - School Problems - Getting Chores Done - ADHD ·Eating Problems - Procrastination - Whining - Tattling and Lying - Homework Battles - And Dozens More! This newly revised and expanded third edition contains up-to-the-minute information on sleeping through the night, back talk, and lack of motivation as well as tips on diet, exercise, and obesity prevention, and new approaches to parenting in the age of computers and cell phones.

The Acclaimed Bestseller That Can Improve Your Classroom Experience Forever! Over the years millions of parents and teachers have used the amazingly effective strategies of Positive Discipline to restore order and civility to their classrooms and homes. And in today''s classroom, where teachers must compete with digital distractions for their students'' attention while trying to satisfy increasingly demanding academic standards, it is more important than ever that educators be able to combat apathy, instill vital problem-solving skills, and create a climate that maximizes learning. Now you too can use the time tested Positive Discipline strategies as a foundation for fostering cooperation, problem-solving skills, and mutual respect in children. This new edition of Positive Discipline in the Classroom is updated with essential tools for the modern teacher. Imagine, instead of controlling behavior, you can be teaching; instead of confronting apathy, you will enjoy motivated, eager students! Inside, you''ll learn how to: ·Create a classroom climate that enhances academic learning ·Use encouragement rather than praise and rewards ·Instill valuable social skills and positive behavior through the use of class meetings -Learn why involving students in solving problems is much more effective than punishment ·Understand the motivation behind students'' behavior instead of looking for causes ·And much more! “A must for every educator. The jargon-free concepts and strategies are easy to follow and have changed my life as a principal, as well as the lives of my teachers and students.” – Bill Scott, Principal of Birney Elementary, Marietta, Georgia “This book should be standard operating procedure. I highly recommend it to anyone who seeks to teach young people!” – Robert W. Reasoner, president of the International Council for Self-Esteem “Transforms the way teachers view themselves and their students. The activities in this book show how learning shifts from head to heart, where positive change can really take route.” – Dina Emser, M.A., former elementary school principal and education consultant

A Positive, Proven Approach to Single Parenting! As a single parent in our complex world, you face the challenge of doing alone a job that was meant for two people. In addition, self-doubt and guilt may dampen the joy you experience raising your child. What do you do? Over the years, millions of parents just like you have come to trust Jane Nelsen''s classic POSITIVE DISCIPLINE series for its consistant, commonsense approach to child rearing. In this completely revised and updated edition of Positive Discipline for Single Parents you''ll learn how to succeed as a single parent in the most important job of your life: raising a child who is responsible, respectful, and resourceful. Inside this reassuring book, you''ll discover how to: ·Identify potential problems and develop skills to prevent them ·Budget time each week for family activities ·Create a respectful coparenting relationship with your former spouse ·Use nonpunitive methods to help your children make wise decisions about their behavior ·And much, much more! "Provides very important information for single parents, especially in today''s violent society. Used as a resource, it can help parents deal with discipline issues in a positive way and in turn help their children become responsible citizens."—Judye Foy, international vice president, Community Relations, Parents Without Partners "Another great resource for both single parents and therapists . . . practical and enjoyable to read. A must for your parenting library."—Stephen Sprinkel, marriage and family therapist

Teaches parents and cargivers how to use kind and firm methods to raise children who are responsible, respectful, and resourceful.

Completely updated with the latest research in child development and learning, Positive Discipline for Preschoolers will help parents understand their preschooler and provide early methods to raise a child who is responsible, respectful, and resourceful. Caring for young children is one of the most challenging tasks an adult will ever face. No matter how much you love your child, there will be moments filled with frustration, anger, and even desperation. There will also be questions: Why does my four-year-old deliberately lie to me? Why is everything a struggle with my three-year-old? Should I ever spank my preschooler when she is disobedient? Over the years, millions of parents have come to trust the Positive Discipline series and its common-sense approach to child-rearing. This revised and updated fourth edition includes a new chapter on the importance of play and outdoor experiences on child development, along with new information on school readiness, childhood brain growth, and social/emotional learning. You''ll also find practical solutions for how to: - Teach appropriate social skills at an early age - Avoid the power struggles that often come with mastering sleeping, eating, and potty training - See misbehavior as an opportunity to teach nonpunitive discipline--not punishment

A revised and updated edition of the Positive Discipline classic, helping parents connect with their children to support their social, emotional, and cognitive development and set them up for a lifetime of success. Over the years millions of parents have used the effective strategies of Positive Discipline to raise happy, responsible, and confident children. Research has shown that the first three years in a child''s life are a critical period in their development, and that relationship and behavior patterns instilled during that time can have profound implications for the rest of a child''s life. The updated advice in Positive Discipline: The First Three Years helps parents set effective boundaries, forge strong foundations for healthy communication, and lay the groundwork for positive relationships with their young children, with new readable and actionable content like: Recognizing and managing anxiety in children How to deal with sleep issues, tantrums, and defiance The importance of kind and firm parenting to support secure attachment Updated research on screentime And how parents can regulate their own behavior to avoid yelling, shaming, and other counterproductive responses It also includes a section on how Positive Discipline techniques can be used to support social emotional skills and language development in children. With this revision, a new generation of parents will be able to discover evidence-based strategies that foster mutual respect.

Discover the Power of Positive Time-Out Time-out is one of the most popular disciplinary techniques used in homes and schools today. But instead of being the positive, motivating, experience it should be for children, it is often punitive, counterproductive, and damaging to their gentle psyches. In this book, bestselling parenting author Jane Nelsen shows you how to make time-out a positive learning experience for children. Inside, you''ll discover how positive time-out can teach children the art of self-discipline and instill such invaluable qualities as self-confidence and problem-solving skills. You''ll also learn how to: ·Make time-out an encouraging experience ·Develop an attitude and action plan to avoid power struggles with children ·Empower children by involving them in the behavior changing process ·Understand the mistaken goals of negative behavior "Gives parents and teachers the encouragement and tools they need to help children handle their own behavior."—Sheryl Hausinger, M.D., Texas Children''s Pediatric Associates and mother of three "Offers more than 50 ways that parents can set limits while still encouraging their kids. It should be in every doctor''s waiting room."—Jody McVittie, M.D., family physician

Positive Parenting for Those Important Teen Years Adolescence is often a time of great stress and turmoil—not only for kids going through it, but for you, their parents as well. During the teen years, kids aggressively begin to explore a new sense of freedom, which often leads to feelings of resentment and powerlessness for parents who increasingly are excluded from their children''s lives. This revised edition of Positive Discipline for Teenagers shows you how to break the destructive cycle of guilt and blame and work toward greater understanding and communication with your adolescents. Inside, you''ll: ·Find out how to encourage your teen and yourself ·Grow to understand how your teen still needs you, but in different ways ·Learn how to get to know who your teen really is ·Discover how to develop sound judgment without being judgmental ·Learn how to use follow-through—the only surefire way to get chores done Over the years, millions of parents have come to trust the classic Positive Discipline series for its consistent, commmonsense approach to child rearing. Inside, you''ll discover proven, effective methods for working with your teens. Over 1 million Positive Discipline books sold! "I highly recommend this book to parents, teachers, and all others who work with young people. It is one of the best books I have seen on helping adults and adolescents turn their conflict into friendship. Remarkably, it shows how to accomplish this while helping young people develop courage, confidence, responsibility, cooperation, self-respect, and trust. I urge you to read it." —H. Stephen Glenn, Ph.D., coauthor of Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent World.

Take back the classroom and make a positive difference in your students'' lives. Many teachers today are facing problems and discipline issues they never dreamed of when they decided to become teachers. Combine violence, behavioral disorders, and downright defiant attitudes from students with the age-old problems of bullying, poor attendance, and more, and the mix is positively lethal. However, there are effective, positive strategies for restoring order and turning the teacher-student relationship into one of mutual respect. Applicable to all grade levels, this comprehensive A to Z guide addresses modern-day problems and practical solutions for establishing an effective learning environment. Inside, you''ll discover: • The 17 fundamental tools of positive discipline • Real-life stories of proven positive discipline strategies • Suggestions for establishing and maintaining respectful, nurturing relationships with students • And much more! "Overcome obstacles and get back to why you became a teacher in the first place: to empower students with confidence, self-respect, and resourcefulness." —Bill Scott, principal, Birney Elementary School, Murietta, Georgia "An inspiring, information-packed book. All teachers—from those just beginning to those with many years of experience—will find the tools of positive discipline easy to use." —Phillip Harris, Ed.D., director, Center for Professional Development and Services, Phi Delta Kappa International

Most readers know that "happiness is within," but they don''t always know how to access that happiness whenever they like, and in all circumstances. In Serenity, Jane Nelsen teaches readers four principles that will help them to stop being a slave to their thought system in order to access wisdom from the heart and from the soul. The four basic and easily applied principles from Serenity: 1. Free yourself from the filters of your thought system. 2. Understand how feelings can act as a personal compass. 3. Improve relationships by understanding and respecting differences. 4. Learn how to overcome depression, anger, or any negative feeling. The chronic stress of modern life often interferes with enjoying the happiness that comes with peace of mind. Joy is needlessly missing from too many lives and from too many relationships. Serenity provides many tools to help readers discover innate feelings of joy, compassion, gratitude, wisdom, and love so they can live more fully every day.

A guide for puppy owners adapts effective child-rearing methods for young canines, in a guide that covers such topics as identifying a breed that fits a family, assessing a puppy''s personality, and overcoming problem behaviors. Original. 15,000 first printing.

MORE THAN 2 MILLION POSITIVE DISCIPLINE BOOKS SOLD The Positive Discipline method has proved to be an invaluable resource for teachers who want to foster creative problem-solving within their students, giving them the behavioral skills they need to understand and process what they learn. In Positive Discipline Tools for Teachers, you will learn how to successfully incorporate respectful, solution-oriented approaches to ensure a cooperative and productive classroom. Using tools like "Connection Before Correction," "Four Problem-Solving Steps," and "Focusing on Solutions," teachers will be able to focus on student-centered learning, rather than wasting time trying to control their students'' behavior. Each tool is specifically tailored for the modern classroom, with examples and positive solutions to each and every roadblock that stands in the way of cooperative learning. Complete with the most up-to-date research on classroom management and the effectiveness of the Positive Discipline method, this comprehensive guide also includes helpful teacher stories and testimonials from around the world. You will learn how to: - Model kind and firm leadership in the classroom - Keep your students involved and intrinsically motivated - Improve students’ self-regulation -And more!