Most Popular Books by Julie Schwartz

Since Joel tackles what happens when the unimaginable loss of a child becomes reality. Julie Schwartz introduces readers to her son Joel David Schwartz, who lived with Autism Spectrum Disorder and died by accidental overdose at age 25. Joel’s unique cognition created situations where he baffled yet informed; infuriated yet endeared; lost and yet won. His mother describes how Joel was a “charming nerd”, inviting us to get to know him in all his complicated detail. She ultimately asks that we maintain Joel’s memory by finding small ways to be kind, and celebrating our differences instead of finding fault with them.

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • LEARN THE 5 SECRETS OF SUCCESSFUL COUPLES Conflict is the top reason couples seek help—but it''s also an opportunity for greater intimacy, deeper connection, and lasting love according to this essential guide from the world’s leading relationship scientists and authors of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and Eight Dates. “An indispensable resource that couples will use over and over again.”—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone How we fight predicts the future of our relationships. Most of us blunder into conflict without knowing what we are really fighting about and then quickly become overwhelmed by physiological responses we can’t control and emotions we don’t anticipate. The truth is the happiest and most successful couples fight—all the time. Conflict is human, and necessary. Through decades of research, Drs. John and Julie Gottman, founders of the world-famous Love Lab, have identified the five common mistakes we make when we are at odds. In Fight Right, we learn the five secrets that help us to get back on track and harness conflict to build stronger, healthier relationships. With kindness, clarity, and a deep understanding of the struggles couples are going through, the Gottmans show us that we each have a unique conflict culture, borne of how we were raised and how we experienced past relationships, and they take us through all the possible combinations, from Avoiders, to Validators, to Volatiles, and how they can best work together. Fight Right is an essential resource that will help couples escape the win-or-lose mentality in favor of a collaborative approach: calming down, staying connected, and really understanding, so that our fights can bring us closer.

Congratulations! You have a new baby. Don’t forget you also have a marriage. Having a baby is a joyous experience, but even the best relationships are strained during the transition from duo to trio. In And Baby Makes Three, Love Lab™ experts John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman teach couples the skills needed to maintain healthy marriages, so partners can avoid the pitfalls of parenthood by: • Focusing on intimacy and romance • Replacing an atmosphere of criticism and irritability with one of appreciation • Preventing postpartum depression • Creating a home environment that nurtures physical, emotional, and mental health, as well as cognitive and behavioral development for your baby Complete with exercises that separate the “master” from the “disaster” couples, And Baby Makes Three helps new parents positively manage the strain that comes along with their bundle of joy.

John and Julie Gottman, world-renowned for bringing an evidence base to couples therapy, report here the results of a second empirical revolution in understanding couples and families. This change is not based on their guesswork, but on state-of-the-art science. This book finally completes the old general systems theory of the 1960s, which metaphorically described processes but did not actually research them. A new general systems theory and therapy is presented here, one which will have profound implications for powerful clinical work with both couples and families. This new theory is based on 45 years of careful basic scientific research with thousands of couples and families, including synchronized observational, interview, physiological, and questionnaire data. The Gottmans have studied some families for as long as 20 consecutive years. Their work has led to their highly replicated ability to precisely predict the future of relationships, relationship happiness, and whether couples will divorce or not with as much as 94% accuracy. Their empirical work has also led them to develop and test a theory of specifically what makes relationships work. Each construct in this theory is precise and measurable and it is all written about and described here. This book presents an original new way of understanding relationships and families. Both theoretical and highly practical, and it will help clinicians become more effective in their everyday work.

From the country’s leading couple therapist duo, a practical guide to what makes it all work. In 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy, two of the world’s leading couple researchers and therapists give readers an inside tour of what goes on inside the consulting rooms of their practice. They have been doing couples work for decades and still find it challenging and full of learning experiences. This book distills the knowledge they''ve gained over their years of practice into ten principles at the core of good couples work. Each principle is illustrated with a clinically compiled case plus personal side-notes and storytelling. Topics addressed include: • You know that you need to “treat the relationship,” but how are you supposed to get at something as elusive as “a relationship”? • How do you empathize with both clients if they have opposite points of view? Later on, if they end up separating does that mean you’ve failed? Are you only successful if you keep couples together? • Compared to an individual client, a relationship is an entirely different animal. What should you do first? What should you look for? What questions should you ask? If clients give different answers, who should you believe? • What are you supposed to do with all the emotional and personal history that your clients stir up in you? • How can you make your work research-based? No one who works with couples will want to be without the insight, guidance, and strategies offered in this book.

The widely celebrated, research-based marital therapy program—now updated and revised. The highly influential book The Marriage Clinic presented a complete marital therapy program based on John Gottman’s much-heralded research on marital success and failure. Since then, Dr. Gottman has collaborated with his wife, clinical psychologist Dr. Julie Gottman, to conduct their well-known Love Lab studies, allowing the pair to design a highly successful couples’ workshop and develop their Sound Relationship House theory. Now, in the book’s first-ever revision, Dr. Gottman and Dr. Gottman incorporate the results of their studies and their most powerful interventions. In addition to its original, celebrated marital therapy program, The New Marriage Clinic includes findings on the dynamics of same-sex couples, interventions for couples recovering from situational domestic violence, strategies for couples rebuilding their marriages after an affair, and much more. No relational therapist’s bookshelf is complete without this vital update to the groundbreaking guide on marital therapy.

Strengthen and deepen your love with a fun, ingenious program of eight life-changing conversations—on essential topics such as money, sex, and trust—from two of the world’s leading marriage researchers and clinicians. Navigating the challenges of long-term commitment takes effort—and it just got simpler, with this empowering, step-by-step guide to communicating about the things that matter most to you and your partner. Drawing on forty years of research from their world-famous Love Lab, Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman invite couples on eight fun, easy, and profoundly rewarding dates, each one focused on a make-or-break issue: trust, conflict, sex, money, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams. Interactive activities and prompts provide motivation to stay open, stay curious, and, most of all, stay talking to each other. And the range—from the four skills you need for intimate conversation (including Put Into Words What You Are Feeling) to tips on being honest about your needs, while also validating your partner’s own emotions—will resonate, whether you’re newly together or a longtime couple looking to fortify your bond. You will discover (or rediscover) your partner like never before—and be able to realize your hopes and dreams for the love you desire and deserve.

INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER “This book feels so hopeful because it’s direct, it’s really honest, and it’s so actionable.” —Brene Brown From New York Times–bestselling authors Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, a simple yet powerful plan to transform your relationship in seven days What makes love last? Why does one couple stay together forever, while another falls apart? And most importantly, is there a scientific formula for love? Drs. John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman are the world’s leading relationship scientists. For the past forty years, they have been studying love. They’ve gathered data on over three thousand couples, looking at everything from their body language to the way they converse to their stress hormone levels. Their goal: to identify the building blocks of love. The Love Prescription distills their life’s work into a bite-size, seven-day action plan with easy, immediately actionable steps. There will be no grand gestures and no big, hard conversations. There’s nothing to buy or do to prepare. Anyone can do this, from any starting point. The seven-day prescription will lead you through these exercises: Day 1: Make Contact Day 2: Ask a Big Question Day 3: Say Thank You Day 4: Give a Real Compliment Day 5: Ask for What You Need Day 6: Reach Out and Touch Day 7: Declare a Date Night There is a formula for a good relationship, and this book will show you how a few small changes can fundamentally transform your relationship for the better.

Results from world-renowned relationship expert John Gottman’s famous Love Lab have proven an incredible truth: Men make or break relationships. Based on 40 years of research, The Man’s Guide to Women unlocks the mystery of how to attract, satisfy, and succeed with a woman for a lifetime. For the first time ever, there is a science-based answer to the age-old question: What do women really want in a man? Dr. Gottman, author of the New York Times bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, and his wife and collaborator, clinical psychologist Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD, have pored over the research along with bestselling coauthors Douglas Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD. Together, they have written this definitive guide for men, providing answers on everything from how to approach a woman and build a connection with her to how to truly satisfy her in bed and know when the relationship is on the right track. The Man’s Guide to Women is a must-have playbook for how to play—and win—the game of love.

In Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, marital psychologists John and Julie Gottman provide vital tools—scientifically based and empirically verified—that you can use to regain affection and romance lost through years of ineffective communication. In 1994, Dr. John Gottman and his colleagues at the University of Washington made a startling announcement: Through scientific observation and mathematical analysis, they could predict—with more than 90 percent accuracy—whether a marriage would succeed or fail. The only thing they did not yet know was how to turn a failing marriage into a successful one, so Gottman teamed up with his clinical psychologist wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, to develop intervention methods. Now the Gottmans, together with the Love Lab research facility, have put these ideas into practice. What emerged from the Gottmans’ collaboration and decades of research is a body of advice that’s based on two surprisingly simple truths: Happily married couples behave like good friends, and they handle their conflicts in gentle, positive ways. The authors offer an intimate look at ten couples who have learned to work through potentially destructive problems—extramarital affairs, workaholism, parenthood adjustments, serious illnesses, lack of intimacy—and examine what they’ve done to improve communication and get their marriages back on track. Hundreds of thousands have seen their relationships improve thanks to the Gottmans’ work. Whether you want to make a strong relationship more fulfilling or rescue one that’s headed for disaster, Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage is essential reading.

''This book feels so hopeful because it''s direct, it''s really honest, and it''s so actionable'' Brené Brown ______ What makes love last? Why do some couples stay together forever, while others fall apart? Is there a formula for building a love that lasts? How can you revive and renew your relationship in just seven days? For the past fifty years, Drs. John and Julie Gottman have been studying love. The Seven-Day Love Prescription distils their work into an accessible, bite-size, seven-day action plan for deeper intimacy. Taking you through their most foundational findings, the Gottmans will help you build a love that lasts in just seven days. Through small, immediately actionable daily steps, they will help you to shift your relationship for the better, providing trusted antidotes to common issues from loneliness and emotional and physical disconnection, to drifting apart and losing that loving feeling. These will teach you how to: · Connect and check in with each other · Ask each other big, open-ended questions · Show appreciation and gratitude by saying thank you · Give your partner a genuine compliment · Communicate what you need · Create moments of physical connection · Declare a date night No matter who you are, or what kind of relationship you want to strengthen, The Seven-Day Love Prescription is guaranteed to provide you with the practical tools to transform any relationship in your life for the better. The Gottmans prove that small frequent changes over just seven days can strengthen the foundations of all relationships, allow them to flourish, and create big, long-lasting change over time. ______ ''There isn''t a marriage or romantic partnership out there that won''t benefit from this book'' New York Journal of Books

Fortaleça e aprofunde seu amor com um programa divertido e engenhoso de oito conversas transformadoras - sobre tópicos essenciais como dinheiro, sexo, confiança e sonhos - de dois dos principais pesquisadores e clínicos de casamento do mundo. “Este livro vai mostrar como ter conversas que propiciam mais intimidade e uma compreensão mútua mais profunda e significativa. Felizes para sempre não significa ausência de desafios e dificuldades. Significa simplesmente conhecer, valorizar e aceitar a outra pessoa como ela é.” – Os autores Com base em 40 anos observando casais em seu laboratório de pesquisa, John e Julie Gottman criaram um programa para aprofundar a intimidade e superar os inevitáveis desafios da vida a dois. Neste livro, eles mostram como organizar oito encontros para que você e seu parceiro conversem de maneira franca e aberta sobre questões cruciais: confiança, conflito, sexo, dinheiro, família, aventura, espiritualidade e sonhos. Através das histórias, atividades, reflexões e perguntas abertas a serem feitas em cada encontro, vocês vão aprender a ouvir e a aceitar um ao outro como nunca antes. E, assim, independente do estágio do relacionamento em que estejam, vão construir as bases para um amor capaz de se renovar e durar a vida inteira.

Van conflict naar connectie: praktisch advies van de meest toonaangevende relatie-experts ter wereld Conflicten zijn essentieel voor je relatie, als je ze tenminste op de juiste manier voert. Relatie-experts Julie en John Gottman vertellen je in Goed ruziemaken hoe je de vijf cruciale fouten kunt vermijden die koppels vaak maken tijdens een conflict, en leren je in plaats daarvan hoe je goed ruzie kunt maken en conflicten zelfs kunt gebruiken voor meer intimiteit, een diepere verbinding en blijvende liefde. Aan de hand van tientallen jaren onderzoek en overtuigende praktijkverhalen laten de Gottmans zien dat we allemaal een unieke conflictstijl hebben, die voortkomt uit onze opvoeding en vorige relaties. Goed ruziemaken helpt stellen om niet meer tegenover elkaar te staan maar een gezamenlijke aanpak te kiezen: om te kalmeren, verbonden te blijven en elkaar echt te begrijpen. Zelfs koppels die gevangen zitten in conflicten zijn zo in staat te herstellen en de weg naar elkaar terug te vinden.

u003eu003e Naordinujte si týdenní kurz lásky od vztahových expertů New York Times Bestseller u003cu003c # O knize „Neexistuje žádné manželství nebo partnerství, které by z této knihy nemělo prospěch.“ — New York Journal of Books Čím to je, že některé páry spolu vydrží šťastně až do smrti, zatímco jiné se rozejdou? Je to náhoda? Štěstí? Nebo snad existuje ověřený vzorec, který vám pomůže vztah udržet? Uznávaní vztahoví terapeuti John a Julie Gottmanovi zasvětili svůj profesní život právě těmto otázkám. Svou celoživotní práci přetavili do sedmidenního akčního plánu plného jednoduchých a okamžitě aplikovatelných kroků s jediným cílem – zlepšit vaše soužití. Ať už potřebujete řešit náhlou partnerskou krizi, oživit desítky let trvající manželství nebo jen podpořit nový vztah. u003eu003eV knize se mimo jiné dozvíte: * Vědecký vzorec pro dlouhodobý vztah existuje a funguje spolehlivě. * Šťastné páry se nehádají méně než ostatní – hádají se lépe. * Základem vztahu je správně pojmenovat, co zrovna potřebujeme. * Klíčem k úspěchu nejsou velká gesta či honosné dary, ale každodenní maličkosti. * Jak přes všechny povinnosti neztratit spojení s tím druhým. Vitamín L je praktickým receptem na lásku, který vám pomůže zaměřit se na to nejpodstatnější. Díky němu zjistíte, že už pár malých návyků může váš vztah zásadně změnit k lepšímu. .u003cu003c # O autorech John Gottman (* 1942) je emeritní profesor psychologie na Washingtonské univerzitě a jeden z nejcitovanějších odborníků v oblasti rodiny a manželství na světě. Mimo jiné je autorem světového bestselleru Sedm principů spokojeného manželství. Obdržel řadu prestižních ocenění a časopis Psychotherapy Networker jej označil za jednoho z deseti nejvlivnějších psychoterapeutů. Julie Schwartz Gottman (* 1951) je spolutvůrkyně populárního workshopu The Art and Science of Love a sama byla v roce 2021 vyhlášena psycholožkou roku státu Washington. Psychotherapy Networker jí udělil cenu za celoživotní přínos. Manželé společně žijí na ostrově Orcas v americkém státě Washington. Toy_Box kreslí a maluje kromě knižních ilustrací obrazy na plátna i stěny domů a píše a kreslí své vlastní příběhy. Za autorský komiks Moje kniha Vinnetou získala ocenění Muriel, její Komiksová učebnice komiksu byla nominovaná na cenu Czech Grand Design. S manželem vychová čtyři děti, jejichž příběhy se často promítají do její tvorby. Knihy manželů Gottmanových u ní doma nahradily párovou terapii a je přesvědčená, že i díky nim se těší z láskyplného a šťastného manželství. # Více o knize: melvil.cz/kniha-vitamin-l

Un libro imprescindible para recuperar el afecto y el romanticismo perdidos a causa de años de comunicación ineficaz. ¿Sientes que te has distanciado de tu pareja? ¿Que ya no os contáis nada? ¿Que la mayor parte del tiempo os dedicáis a los hijos? Para el Dr. Gottman y su colega y esposa, la Dra. Julie Schwartz Gottman, esta es una situación normal. De hecho, las investigaciones científicas que han llevado a cabo durante décadas ponen de manifiesto que la mayoría de parejas se enfrentan a estos y a otros problemas graves. No obstante, estas investigaciones también han permitido demostrar que estas dificultades no desencadenan necesariamente el deterioro de la relación, ni tampoco un divorcio. El Dr. John M. Gottman, y la Dra. Julie Schwartz Gottman son los fundadores y directores del Instituto Gottman y del Instituto de Investigación de las Relaciones de Pareja de Seattle.

Êtes-vous faits l’un pour l’autre ? « Que vous soyez déjà dans une relation sérieuse ou que vous commenciez tout juste une histoire, ce livre est un guide essentiel pour construire et maintenir un amour véritable et durable. » — Dr Daniel J. Siegel S’appuyant sur plus de 40 ans de recherche et de nombreuses études scientifiques, les docteurs John Gottman et Julie Schwartz Gottman – véritables références dans le domaine du mariage – vous expliquent comment mieux comprendre et faire durer votre couple. À travers huit rendez-vous, explorant chacun un thème essentiel de votre relation, vous vous découvrirez comme jamais auparavant, et apprendrez à faire face à tous les défis inévitables pour construire une vie de joie et d’intimité. Ce guide simple et ludique vous accompagne, étape par étape, rendez-vous par rendez-vous, vers la relation amoureuse que vous méritez.

Bazându-se pe decenii de cercetare și analiză a relațiilor de cuplu, John și Julie Gottman adună în Rețetă pentru dragoste cele mai puternice ingrediente menite să vă consolideze relația. De-a lungul a șapte zile, veți învăța să vă dozați eficient grija și afecțiunea și să renunțați la tot ce dăunează sănătății cuplului: critica, disprețul, atitudinea defensivă și refuzul comunicării. Informațiile rezultate din experiența îndelungată a autorilor, exemplele relevante și sfaturile ușor de pus în practică fac din această carte un ghid extrem de util, la îndemâna tuturor cuplurilor care simt că au ratat o etapă din clădirea relației lor. Având la bază o solidă cercetare științifică, rețeta iubirii propusă de soții Gottman explică pas cu pas care sunt ingredientele necesare și pașii indispensabili pentru dezvoltarea unei relații de durată.

Was sich Frauen wirklich wünschen Die meisten Partnerschaftsratgeber sind für Frauen geschrieben – für John Gottman ist das, als würde man eine Operation am offenen Herzen ausführen – nur leider am falschen Patienten. Denn wie er in seinem bekannten „Love Lab” herausgefunden hat, sind es eher die Männer, die Beziehungstipps benötigen: Was Männer sagen oder tun beziehungsweise was sie nicht sagen oder nicht tun, ist der entscheidende Faktor, ob eine Beziehung erfolgreich ist oder scheitert. John Gottman und seine Frau Julie Schwartz Gottman haben in über 40 Jahren Tausende von Paaren und ihre Interaktion erforscht und dabei zwei der größten Beziehungsrätsel gelöst: was wir attraktiv finden und wie wir eine glückliche Ehe führen. Ihr neues Buch, das sie zusammen mit den erfolgreichen Autoren Doug Abrams und Rachel Carlton Abrams geschrieben haben, widmen sie nun ganz ihren männlichen Lesern. Dabei ist „Beziehung ist Männersache” kein Pick-up-Manual, sondern ein fundierter Ratgeber, der jedem Mann hilft, erfolgreicher mit Frauen umzugehen – sei es in einer bestehenden Beziehung oder bei der Suche nach der passenden Partnerin: Was finden die meisten Frauen bei Männern attraktiv? Wie kann Mann die Skills verbessern, die sie sich wünscht? Das und vieles mehr (wie besserer Sex und größere Zufriedenheit in der Partnerschaft) haben das Autorenteam in einem praktischen und dabei lockeren Buch zusammengefasst.

Der Beziehungsratgeber für lange und glückliche Beziehungen: sofort praktisch anwendbar, leicht verständlich und basierend auf wissenschaftlichen Erkenntnissen! »Ewige Liebe ist kein Märchen, sondern das Ergebnis guter Gespräche. Das sagen die Paartherapeuten John und Julie Gottman.« Marika Schaertl ― Donna So führen Sie eine wirklich glückliche Beziehung! Der Psychologe und Bestsellerautor Dr. John Gottman und seine Ehefrau Dr. Julia Schwartz Gottman erforschen seit Jahrzehnten die Geheimnisse glücklicher Beziehungen. Ihre Erkenntnis: Jeder kann - unabhängig ob frisch verliebt oder seit dreißig Jahren verheiratet - seine Beziehung auf eine glückliche und vertrauensvolle Basis stellen, die sie lebendig hält. Miteinander im Gespräch zu bleiben ist dabei wesentlich. Die Gottmans haben in zahlreichen Studien herausgefunden, dass sich Paare über acht Themen regelmäßig austauschen sollten: über Vertrauen Konflikte Sex Finanzen Familie Spaß inneres Wachstum und Träume. Mit praktischen Ratschlägen, Fragebögen und zahlreichen Fallbeispielen laden die Paarexperten dazu ein, sich regelmäßig mit der Partnerin oder dem Partner zu einem "Gespräch" zu verabreden, um so für eine glückliche und langlebige Beziehung zu sorgen. *** Wenn sie bestehende Streitthemen auflösen oder mögliche Konflikte vorbeugen möchten, dann ist dieser Ratgeber genau das Richtige für Ihre Beziehung! ***

Fünf Konflikte, die jede Beziehung stärken können Konflikte gehören zu jeder Partnerschaft – doch nur ein Drittel aller Probleme lassen sich wirklich lösen. Statt sich daran aufzureiben, zeigen die international erfolgreichen Paartherapeuten John und Julie Gottman, wie Paare lernen können, mit Herausforderungen konstruktiv umzugehen. Ihr Ansatz verspricht nicht nur Harmonie, sondern langfristiges Wachstum und eine tiefere Verbindung. Erfolgreich lieben trotz Herausforderungen Basierend auf jahrzehntelanger Forschung und unzähligen Studien haben die Gottmans die fünf häufigsten Beziehungskonflikte identifiziert. In ihrem Buch erklären sie praxisnah, wie Paare diese Konflikte vermeiden oder produktiv bewältigen können. Dabei geht es nicht um Perfektion, sondern um Verständnis, Kommunikation und gegenseitiges Vertrauen. Dieses Buch ist ein wertvoller Begleiter für alle, die ihre Beziehung stärken und gemeinsam wachsen möchten. Ein inspirierender Leitfaden für mehr Liebe, Respekt und Zusammenhalt – auch in schwierigen Zeiten.

La ricetta per una vita di coppia perfetta «Non c’è coppia al mondo che non possa beneficiare di questo libro.» The New York Times Che cosa fa sì che l’amore resista nel tempo? Perché ci sono coppie che durano tutta la vita e altre che si separano? E, cosa più importante, esiste una formula scientifica dell’amore? John e Julie Gottman sono fra i più famosi scienziati a livello mondiale sulla vita di coppia. Nel corso di quarant’anni hanno raccolto dati su un campione di più di tremila coppie, di cui hanno analizzato ogni aspetto della vita in comune, dal linguaggio del corpo, al modo in cui interagiscono verbalmente, ai mutamenti nel livello dell’ormone dello stress. Lo scopo: individuare gli elementi fondanti dell’amore. In 7 giorni per ritrovare l’amore gli autori hanno distillato tutto il sapere accumulato in un programma di una settimana articolato in step progressivi. Non sono richiesti gesti grandiosi né discussioni spinose: è un programma alla portata di tutti, e tutti noi sappiamo bene che nella vita di coppia arrivano quei momenti di difficoltà, grandi o piccole, che a volte diventano ostacoli insormontabili. Questo libro insegna come superarli.